Will change be in my future?
Will it be in the future of my kids?
Will it change me or people around me or both?
Who will decide to change around me as I change?
I've lived my life from a values-based perspective. I realized that a long time ago; I don't know exactly when.
I realized that there was Truth in life that was out there to find. I've been on a search for it my whole life.
That means I'm often in a state of change while maintaining the practices that keep the values and truth I've discovered alive and flourishing.
As a result, I change and I love the change. I often don't love it in the moment, the disconcerting nature of shifting something that at least is familiar if not healthy. But usually as time goes on, I'm grateful and fruit starts to materialize in ways I could never have imagined.
I realized a while ago that some of my close relationships will shift and adjust to a point with change where they will be fundamentally different than when they started. Sometimes both parties are okay with that. We stay in the game acknowledging the value of friendship and accepting that change is better than an end.
Sometimes friendships change to the point where they end. I'm okay with that usually once I can do some body work and emotional wheel work to see what's really going on. I can let that come and go with the tide and send prayers and positive energy to them on their own journey that is no longer crossing with mine.
I'm confident I'll go the distance with someone when I see a real interest and openness to change. Not in a zealous manner, like it's a project. Someone who accepts themselves where they are now, and knows they'll always be a work in progress, at some times more intense than others.
I've been living this reality quite literally for the last two years I've been in therapy. I'm always in some state of transition while also trying to stay grounded. I also have people around me acting out and spinning out, and I have to decide how they fit into this picture of values-based living. What can my system handle? How do you honor people? What are healthy boundaries?