I went to the bank and withdrew significant funds from my mother’s main checking account.
I put it into a money market account that is only accessible by me.
I’ve given this a great deal of thought over the last several months since beginning to have more transparency into her finances.
Primarily, the main reasons are due to fraud as well as her spending habits. Her dementia and how they are giving money away is also alarming as well as some of the newly emerging late fees and a collection bill on the last credit card.
I was pretty under the window the rest of the day. I took myself out to a nice lunch, had some wine, read the local outdoor activity magazine to think about the fall which is passing rapidly. I’d say I felt pretty flat the rest of the day, just blah. I had a flu shot so that could have something to do with it, not sure.
I guess I am grateful for the newfound relief from much of my past obsessive stress and thinking. I am realizing more and more the further I get from it that I could easily get amped up about the smallest things. As a result, I spent a lot of time being outraged or speculating about conversatios or situations to come #worry
My body has been stuck in a fight/flight/freeze pattern for decades. First it was the childhood, then the business and marriage of two triggered individuals.
I remember reading slogans and spiritual phrases about not worrying, trust God, etc. and just sort of scoffed, like, it doesn’t seem like anyone is on duty. I might not worry, but I sure as hell am not going to close my eyes much. I tried not to worry, but my body wouldn’t let me rest.
So I think that’s just a lot to process, in one day.
It feels like the beginning of hopefully helping her especially with the finances and streamlining things.
I’d love to see them feel some financial freedom to do more things they’d like to enjoy. They are spending too much on charity and need additional revenue from the possibility of a VA pension for my stepdad. I don’t know if that will come to fruition or not.
So, one for the books.
We meet again tomorrow, this time to talk about finances and medical stuff. I hope it goes well.